Following the theme of last weeks post I want to talk about judging your insides by someone else's outsides. It's easy to fall into the trap of looking at others and saying to ourselves - wow they have it so easy they: are thin, fit, rich, pretty, have a great job, husband, kids, car and the list can go on and on. The reality is that everyone regardless of how it looks on the outside have things that they struggle with on the inside AND there will always be people who have more and people who have less it's just a fact of life. Once we accept that it is much, MUCH easier to move along.
In my triathlon training for beginners program I have women who are all striving towards a common goal - to complete a triathlon. They are all at different levels of ability and they are all good at different aspects of the three sports. In a situation like this it is super easy to let the voice in our head compare our ability to the ability of others - Suzie runs faster, Jill's a better biker and Denise swims like a fish. I do my best to remind my Athletes that it doesn't matter how anyone else in the group is doing all that matters is how YOU are doing. I teach my Athletes to say "It's all about ME!" because in the end it really is. We all have our own internal struggles that we must overcome and if we're busy worrying about what others are doing we are short changing ourselves.
This holds true in athletic endeavors as well as in all areas of life. People may look at me and see someone who is happily married for almost 20 years with two great sons, a nice home, well off, a natural athlete and basically living a dream life. The reality is that I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional home that was basically a war zone. My escape was sports when I was younger then drugs and alcohol when I was older. My father is currently married to his 5th wife and my mom was married twice and is currently single. Not great role models for what to do....
I faced my drug and alcohol addiction and have been clean and sober since October 1985, about 8 years ago my marriage was on the brink of divorce, my youngest son is ADHD and struggles in school, we skimp and save to have the things we do and I too struggle with making myself get out there and do my workouts, in fact from time to time there are still days that I struggle with my own self. Thank goodness they are few and far between now! So the reality is that no matter how things may look on the outside you just never know what is going on on the inside.
So the next time you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else take a moment and remember that looks can be decieving and that you really, truly are amazing and you are enough. Just keep moving forward to the best of your ability because the best is yet to come.
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