I went to the dentist yesterday to have some fillings replaced. I'm like 90% of the people I know and rank dental work in my Top Ten of things I LEAST like doing, thank goodness I have such a great dentist. While I was sitting in the the chair waiting for the novocaine to take effect the dentist and I were chatting about different things we've done and experienced. It was quite a lively and entertaining chat I must say!
As I was laying there with my tunes flowing in my ears I replayed the conversation we'd had. I began to realize how extraordinary my life has been. Sure I've had a lot of pain and sorrow but when I really stopped to look at all of the adventures I've had I became deeply grateful. I also felt overwhelming love and gratitude towards my husband of 21 years, for my Sons, for my entire life and all the experiences that I've had.
I recently attended a networking luncheon that had two amazing and powerful women as the speakers. Melody Biringer the creator of the wildly successful CRAVE books was talking about being a serial entrepreneur. She shared that when she was trying to decide the best direction to take her CRAVE business in she flew to Amsterdam to spend time working on her plan. She chose Amsterdam because of the cookies. When I first heard her say that she'd been to Amsterdam not once but twice I instantly envied her and wanted to be able to go there too. As quickly as the thought came it also left.
The next speaker was Sandra Yancey the founder of eWomen Network who spoke of how we create the life that we are currently living. If we want to live a different life it is up to us to create it. It's easy to see successful people talking about creating the life of their dreams then dismiss what they say with a "Yes but you don't understand that it's harder for me because..." Sandra shared how she was on the brink of bankruptcy with the utility companies leaving shut off notices on her door. Yet she persevered towards her dream of building eWomen Network and now enjoys great success as the owner of a multi-million dollar international company.
I've found that it's easier to live in "the yes buts" than to dare to follow my dream. However when I live in the "yes but's" I am miserable because I know in my heart of hearts that the life of my dreams is within my power to create. It's funny how hard it can be to let go of the familiar life that causes us pain to start walking towards the life we dream of because we don't know what lies in store forus along the way.
I've made the decision many, MANY times to step out of my comfort zone, through the fear of the unknown to let go of the painful life I'm comfortable with in order to create the life I really want with all my heart. My willingness to let go of my fear of the unknown has resulted in:
- Letting go of a marriage full of pain in order to gain a marriage that is filled with love, support and happiness. (Same man completely different marriage)
- Being able to share my gifts with others in a meaningful, empowering and impactful way.
- Travel to amazing places filled with exciting experiences like taking a zipline tour in Puerto Vallarta with my family. Swimming with dolphins in Cabo San Lucas. Experiencing the challenge courses at Miraval spa in Arizona. Snowshoeing in the cascades and the Methow Valley. Downhill skiing in Washington, Idaho and Canada. The list goes on and on.
- Completing numerous sprint distance triathlons, numerous 1, 1.5 and 2 mile open water swims, numerous 5K's, completing half of the MS 150 bike ride as well as 5K obstacle courses.
- Creating the sanctuary of my dreams which happens to be my current home. I kept looking elsewhere for the longest time until I realized that I could turn my current home into my dream home. When I shifted from looking outside to looking inward it became clear that I already had everything I needed and wanted to create my sanctuary home.
- Realizing that my life can be ANYTHING that I want it to be. All I have to do is: Know what I want and ASK for it. Be unapologetically ME. Define what success is for ME.
- Gratitude for all aspects of my life. I couldn't be the person I am today without having had the experiences that I've had - both good and bad.
It's easy to look at the outside of someone's life and feel envious, of wanting what they have, of feeling as if we've gotten the short end of the stick but at the end of the day our life is our responsibility. We are the ones that create the life we live. We are the ones who decide how we look at our lives whether it's through the eyes of envy or the eyes of gratitude. By taking responsibility for our life and our actions we step into the greatest gift we can give ourselves - the gift of creation.
What will YOU create?
Here's to you in Health, Wellness and Fitness!
Jennifer Malocha CEO of Fun at Wuhoo Fitness
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