MY SON IS TRYING TO KILL ME!

So you know how I decided to make my health a priority by getting more fit active and healthier? My oldest son suggested that we try following and eating the 'Paleo' way for a month. Can I just say that it SEEMED like a good idea at the time? Keep in mind that this is the same child that when I put protein powder in my special coffee cake, in an effort to provide my family with more nutritious food, he would let me know in no uncertain terms that it simply wasn't nearly as good as my 'normal' coffee cake. 

I told my beloved child that I would be happy to join him on his eating adventure as long as it was 1) easy for me to follow 2) he did most of the work in regards to planning 3) I didn't DIE. Well, I'm on my 5th full day of following this way of eating and let me just say for the record that generally it's a very good thing I'm doing. Generally. 

Did I mention that when following the Paleo way, one can eat NO, I repeat NO grains of any kind or potatoes or apparently hummus. So far over the past 5 days, I've decided that a life without hummus is a life not worth living and have added it back into my repertoire. I've also slipped twice. Both times involved my favorite lime-flavored corn chips.  I have done great not being tempted by one of my FAVORITE foods on the planet - anything baked or bread-like. Seriously this is the longest I've gone without my beloved bread stuffs and pasta in my entire life! I deserve a medal or something. Really I do.

I'm pretty sure I'm going through withdrawal from not consuming processed foods (and corn chips) I've had the headache from HELL all day today. Granted that may have been from the tequila last night but I think that's just hearsay AND my 45-minute long walk in the woods didn't cure it so it MUST be processed food withdrawal. Right?  Also, I'm not taking any multivitamins and my urine is yellow which is a sure sign that nutrients are gaining access to my poor traumatized system.  Honest to GOD, the thought of a potato chip makes me drool. Not simply because they are delicious but because of the texture. The crunchy yumminess calls to me like a siren calling sailors to their destruction on the reefs. I think it an important public service announcement to let you know if you happen to eat a potato chip in my near vicinity you may lose some fingers or quite possibly your hand as I wrench it from your unsuspecting fingers.

Anyway, did I mention that no grains are to be consumed while eating Paleo? I'm seriously DYING for grains and I'm pretty sure that my beloved Quinoa misses me just as much as I miss it, which means that my child, who is hell-bent on killing me with healthy eating is simply going to have to understand when he finds me hiding scarfing down a bowl of  healthy goodness. 

I'll keep you all posted on my progress on the path to a healthier and more slender Jennifer I promise IF my child doesn't succeed in killing me with all this healthy food I'm eating.

Here's to you in health, wellness, and fitness

Love, Jennifer

jennifer@wuhoocoaching.com 206-601-2485

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Written by Jennifer MalochaOn April 25, 2015

SHHHH... PLEASE DON'T TELL TELL ANYONE MY SECRET.

I learned years ago in a 12 step recovery program the phrase "We're only as sick as our secrets." The more secretive a person is the sicker they are. Secrets take a lot of hard work and energy to keep. At some point, those secrets will catch up to the one keeping the secrets and wreak havoc in their life, and then all that hard work is for naught.

I took that phrase to heart when I learned it and have worked diligently to clear out all the secrets hiding in the closet. I've done a great job clearing them out and now I'm working on the last one.

The Big One.

The one I've told myself for YEARS. That all was right in my world, that my husband loved me and that we could be happy. All I had to do was love him more, keep the house cleaner, be different in whatever way he wanted and not make waves. If I did these things then he would KNOW how much I loved him and it would motivate and inspire him to love me back.

I had a healing session yesterday and one of the first things out of my mouth, when she asked me what was coming up for me, was "I just don't want to see the truth." I can blame my to be ex-husband all day long for his actions but the truth is, I allowed his behavior by 'not wanting to see the truth.' This means I have to take responsibility for MY actions as unpleasant as that is.

Once we see something it can't be unseen.

What I choose to do about what I see is entirely up to me.

The truth is, is that I'm recovering from choosing to live willingly with my abuser. For subjecting my Sons to his abuse, especially my youngest Son. I have a lot to make amends for with my Sons, however, I have many more amends to make to myself.

I was taught from birth by my mother and father that all I deserved was to be abused. That's all I knew so when it came time to choose my mate, that's what I chose. And I stayed because I chose not to believe that I had chosen an abuser.

Hindsight is 20/20

Sure I could beat myself up for my choices but what good would that do? No good would come from that. Who would that serve? No one, especially me. I'm choosing life. I'm choosing freedom. I'm choosing to heal all the wounds so that I can make myself whole.

No more secrets. No more lies. No more selling my soul for crumbs. No more sickness.

I trust that God and the Universe have a plan for me. I trust that I will be well cared for. I trust that by walking through this nightmare with my eyes wide open and allowing myself to feel all the pain, I will leave this part of my life behind me so that I can stand fully in the Beautiful life filled with Love and Joy that is waiting for me on the other side.

All I have to do is walk through the fire of purification to purge all the past so that I can break free from the trauma and the lies. I’m ready to take that walk because I Got This.

If you see yourself in my writing please know that you are NOT alone. That you do NOT deserve to be abused. That you ARE worthy. You ARE loveable. You ARE amazing. That you too can break free and breath the fresh air of Deserving. And that you don’t have to do this alone.

Huge Love to you all,

Jennifer Malocha

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Written by Jennifer MalochaOn April 19, 2014

TRUE CONFESSIONS OF AN OVERWEIGHT, OUT OF SHAPE FITNESS PROFESSIONAL...

How on EARTH can the scale be right?!?!? How did this HAPPEN?!?!?! WTF??? This SUCKS.

These were all thoughts scampering through my mind when I looked down at the scale I was standing on. I have known for quite a while that something needed to happen, that I really needed to get serious and start living life the way I used to before my brain injury. In all honesty, I've never in my entire life weighed this much or been this out of shape. It's seriously daunting and, I admit, scary. 

I have always had great respect, love, and compassion for my overweight, out of shape clients. The one thing I didn't have was first-hand knowledge of how it FELT to be overweight and out of shape. I do now. Everything takes way more effort, I have so much less energy and drive, my 'fat' clothes are getting too tight and unfortunately, I still have the same old appetite.

My respect for my clients has grown dramatically during this adventure. Their courage and perseverance is to me EPIC and heroic.  While I KNOW the rewards of being healthy and fit the vast majority of my clients don't, they simply TRUST that things will get better. That they'll feel better. That I'm actually telling them the truth. They simply live on faith and that to me is incredible and impressive.

The one thing they have going in their favor that I don't... Since they have nothing to compare their new level of fitness with they get super excited and motivated to keep going. While I, on the other hand, keep comparing what I USED to be able to do with where I am and trust me that isn't at ALL helpful.

As of April 6th I have made a commitment to myself to do at least 20 minutes of cardio daily, eat healthier and become overall more active. My goal is to keep you all posted on my progress.

Here's to you in health, wellness, fitness, and love,

Jennifer Malocha

Head Coach and Healer at Wuhoo Coaching

jennifer@wuhoocoaching.com 206-601-2485 www.wuhoocoaching.com

 

Written by Jennifer Malocha On April 18, 2015

Tagged weight lossfitnesswellnessWell Being

CROSSING THE FINISH LINE...

In a few short weeks, I'll be crossing the finish line of my 40's and entering into a new and exciting event which will be my 50's. I crossed a LOT of finish lines in my 40's. And I mean a LOT!   

My fitness events include crossing the finish lines of 5K's complete with obstacles, 10K's, 100+ mile bike rides, Sprint & Olympic distance triathlons and 1, 1.5 & 2-mile open water swims. I've collected many finisher medals, all of which I'm extremely proud of. Professionally I've coached over 200 beginner athletes, most of whom were women, across the finish line of their own fitness events and as proud as I am for my accomplishments, in many ways I'm much more proud of them for theirs.

I signed up for the Warrior Dash in June, it's a 5K run with obstacles. I did this event a few years ago but this time it will be a VERY different experience for me and not just because I'll be 50. My TBI (Traumatic brain Injury) took a very large toll on me physically. My journey back to being as fit as I was has been pretty challenging. I used to be able to ride my horse for hours without being sore. A little tired perhaps but never sore. Now I ride for 30-40 minutes and I'm SORE for a couple of days. I even get kind of sore from a brisk walk 3-mile walk and I've noticed that I breathe a lot harder than people when walking briskly up a hill. Sigh. That person was always someone else, not me.  Again, sigh...

Every day I have a choice. I can choose to continue to move forward to the best of my ability or I can give up and throw in the towel. I'd be lying if I said I always make the choice to move forward. There are days that I throw in the towel. More than I care to admit. The important thing for me is that I go find that thrown towel, pick it up and keep trying. So far I've always wanted to find my towel, which is in many ways, is the most important part of achieving my goals. After all, how can I cross a finish if I've truly thrown in my towel?

Here's to thrown towels that keep getting picked up.

Love, Jennifer Expert Towel Finder <3

Written by Jennifer Malocha On March 15, 2014

FOOTSTEPS

Footsteps

My feet take steps which carry me forward

Ahead is the life that is to come

Farther I travel from what I've always known

At times I feel lost within the mighty labyrinth that is life 

Uncertainty plagues my every step to fill me with fear and doubt

I feel separate and alone

That is until I remember

I'm not alone nor am I ever truly lost for I cannot lose my way

All I have to do is stop and go within

My truth, my guidance, my peace, my connection to the world are waiting

All of me is waiting for my return to the secret garden of my soul

~ Jennifer Malocha

Written by Jennifer MalochaOn December 29, 2013

DEAR LIFE - I CAN RIDE AS FAST AS YOU CAN RUN!

Have you ever have one of those days where everything is just humming along and all of a sudden "BAM!" everything is changed? I had one the other day. In a moment of panic, I forgot that I really CAN ride as fast as life can run. In that moment of panic, I forgot everything that I knew about riding things out.  I forgot that I am totally capable of being fully relaxed and in control - regardless of the speed.

I've found that when I forget that little nugget there's usually pain involved for me. This time it happened to be physical pain accompanied by emotional pain. I'm not sure at this point, which pain is worse. The things that I can say to myself in times like this usually are WAY less than kind and compassionate. I do however have a choice. I can choose to continue down the path of second-guessing my actions and judging them OR I can do my best to learn from what happened, remember the lesson for future use and simply move on.

Right now, at this moment, (if I dwell on the “coulda, shoulda woulda’s”) the most frustrating thing for me is the knowledge that by staying calm I would have avoided a great deal of unpleasantness.  Hindsight IS 20/20 after all!

By the same token, I can choose to look at all of what’s happened (and continues to happen) as a wonderful learning opportunity.  I must admit that the blessings I’ve received have been numerous and many have been completely unexpected.

Yes, the pain I feel is very real. Yes, the pain is only temporary, I will definitely heal.  Yes, my future at this moment IS uncertain. Yes, I am up for the challenge.  It is my hope that the next time I find myself in a similar situation I WILL remember that I can ride as fast as life can run.  That I CAN stay calm and relaxed. That there is no need to panic. By staying calm and relaxed I’ll make the best possible decisions in the moment for my highest and greatest good.

 I’m intrigued to discover what will unfold as I walk through the journey that is unfolding before me right now. 

Here's to you in Wellness, Fitness, and Health!

Jennifer Malocha CEO of Fun at Wuhoo Coaching

jennifer@wuhoofitness.com

www.wuhoofitness.com

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Written by Jennifer Malocha On January 26, 2013

HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH?

I was sitting eating my lunch and thinking.  I was thinking about my business, in particular, rebranding. The first time I saw the Wuhoo Fitness logo I fell head over heels in love and I REALLY wanted to be able to use it in rebranding from Wuhoo Fitness to Wuhoo Coaching. I was struggling with how to incorporate the equine & phone coaching elements into the logo. I may have mentioned before that I have wicked cool Friends - well the combined talent of two of them were able to create something that I'm falling in love with. It’s still a work in progress but it is super close.

I asked a special group of friends to give me honest and authentic feedback, so far the feedback has been very positive. As I was pondering the comments about how it so nicely incorporates all the different things I do I started to think about all the individuals I've worked with over the past 10 (going on 11!) years that I've been working with clients.

To date I've helped over 350 Women cross the finish line of their first fitness event - triathlons, 5 & 10K's & 25+ mile bike rides. This doesn't include the one on one & small group clients reaching personal goals or coaching clients achieving personal bests as well as profound breakthroughs.

If I go deeper and include my volunteering the numbers grow larger and larger. I host a free 5K on New Year’s day, I coached my sons' soccer teams for 9 years, volunteered in their classrooms, taught Sunday school at church, was a Swim Angel for the Danskin triathlon in Seattle for many years and gifted my motivational speaking to Cycle the WAVE (Women Against Violence Everywhere) bike ride.

The number of lives I've touched is substantial, why is it then, that I feel a need to give more, do more, BE more? Which leads to the BIG question - how much is enough? Or more precisely when am I enough? I’m not sharing what I’ve done in an effort to have people think ‘wow – you’re so amazing’, quite the contrary.  I’m sharing this with you because for a long, long time I’ve felt that in order to be almost as good as everyone else I have to do, give and be more.  I’ve been working on healing that though.

Just because we CAN do something doesn’t mean we HAVE to do it.  I’ve been learning this over the last year and a half.  I have a lot of knowledge, I have many gifts, I know how to drive to make things happen.  Right now I’m learning balance.  I’m focusing on doing the things that I love, that bring me joy, that make my heart sing.  I’ve been working on creating breathing space that is restful, not just for me, but also for those who interact with me.

A former teacher shared a perspective and story with me that has had a profound impact on my life.  What if I’ve done all that I’ve come here to do?  What if now all I have to do is enjoy life?  What if one day I was standing waiting for a bus when a man walked past me. He wasn’t paying attention and was about to step out into the street in front of a bus. I reached out and pull him back saving his life.  He thanks me and keeps going on with his day.  What if that man went on to discover a cure for cancer.  What if the whole reason I was alive was to be there, at that exact moment, to save his life? What if that was my life’s purpose?

I’ve become very mindful of what I do and why I do it.  I always enjoyed giving of myself in the ways that I have in the past, but now it’s different. I still give of myself but I do it from a very different place.  I give from a place of joy and I give because it brings me joy to give.  I no longer feel the need to drive, to strive, to do more and be more.  Now I just want to BE. 

Where are you driving in your life?  Is it serving you?  Do you feel you have to or do you feel you get to? If there are places in your life that you’d like to create more peace, consider coming to one of the Equine Assisted Group Coaching sessions I host the 2nd and 4th Friday of every month from 2-4 pm, it’s only $30 per person and the comments I get is that at $30 it’s a steal. But come find out for yourself, the life you heal could be your own…..

 

Here's to you in Wellness, Fitness, and Health!

Jennifer Malocha CEO of Fun at Wuhoo Coaching

jennifer@wuhoofitness.com

www.wuhoofitness.com

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Written by Jennifer Malocha On January 19, 2013

A JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES....

It is a beautiful and yet unusually cold morning as I sit down to write this post. So much has happened in the time between this post and my last post. I had NO idea that I would find myself where I am today living the life that I'm living. Today my life is filled with Love, Peace, Connection, Joy & TRUE Friendship. It's a FAR cry from the darkness & despair that I lived the majority of my life in.  

 

The darkness & despair came from growing up in an extremely physically violent house where I was told that I had no worth, I wasn’t wanted & that I was a burden taking up space better used by others. Very early in my life, I turned to drugs, alcohol & risky behavior to numb the pain & keep the darkness at bay. I was well on my way to being a statistic when I saw the light... it was blue & behind me pulling me over for a DUI when I was 20.  

 

That was the real beginning of the FANTASTIC journey that I've been on ever since. I've been through a LOT of therapy which has provided incredible healing. The most profound healing has come as the result of my horse, Teddy. We had a rather tumultuous beginning, to say the least! I'd only been taking riding lessons for a little over a year when I decided that I NEEDED a horse. You see I'd wanted a horse as far back as I can remember but never had one in my life in any capacity.

 

When a person gets their first horse the smart thing to do is get what's called a 'schoolmaster', essentially a very well trained horse that will babysit a beginner. I don't always do things the easy or the smart way... Teddy was an off the track racehorse who had raced for 9 years that was going to be put down because he was overly aggressive. When I met him he was in a rescue, I knew that he wasn't trained but I also knew that he was kind. My heart just knew. He was my horse.

 

Both of our learning curves were STEEP, to say the least LOL! As I was feeling my way through learning horsemanship skills as well as how to ride, I discovered that there was a direct parallel between what I was going through with Teddy and what I was living out in my human relationships. I began to notice the darkness receding further and further the deeper my connection with Teddy became.

 

About two years after I had gotten Teddy I decided that I really wanted to share the incredible healing power of horses with others which is how I found the Touched By a Horse Equine Assisted Gestalt Coaching certification program. I graduated from the program in April after 240 in person, intense training hours along with 100 hours of class time, plus homework & 1 on 1 coaching time with my own coach for a grand total of 400 hours of training. 

The Touched By a Horse program literally has changed my life in so many wonderful and positive ways. Ways that I never imagined when I began this miraculous journey. I have no idea where my journey down this path will lead in the end but I DO know it will be wondrous. It will be filled with even MORE love, peace, fellowship, connection & continued personal growth. 

 If you are curious about what Equine Assisted Gestalt Coaching IS please come to one of the drop-in coaching groups I offer the 2nd & 4th Friday of every month from 2-4 PM. No horse experience needed just curiosity and a willingness to discover.  It's only $30 per person, if you bring a friend then it's only $30 for both of you.

 

Here's to you in Wellness, Fitness, and Health!

Jennifer Malocha CEO of Fun at Wuhoo Coaching

jennifer@wuhoofitness.com

www.wuhoofitness.com

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Written by Jennifer Malocha On January 12, 2013

CYCLE THE WAVE - WOMEN AGAINST VIOLENCE EVERYWHERE

A few weeks ago a tragic event happened in a small community on the Pacific Northwest.  A man suspected of killing his wife in 2009 who was still under investigation killed himself and his sons during what was supposed to be a routine supervised visit.  Wives, girlfriends, significant others in same-sex relationships & children are injured & killed every single day in every city in every country around the world.  This isn't something that only happens to poor people in poor neighborhoods.  This is an equal opportunity illness that can be found in any home, anywhere.

Did you know that the higher the income bracket the less likely domestic violence will be reported or even BELIEVED?  Apparently, it's hard to believe that affluent, well-educated people are capable of domestic violence.  About six months ago in Seattle, a prominent physician killed his partner and their child, you see the partner was planning on leaving the doctor because he was afraid for his life.

As I said Domestic Violence can happen to anyone, anywhere at any time.  I can share story after story after story.  It's time that we as a society say we will not stand for violence of this kind.  Five years ago a group of women who ride bikes together decided that they wanted to make a difference in the lives of others.  They put their thinking helmets on and came up with an all women's bike ride where 100% of the proceeds go to domestic violence support services and prevention programs. 

Last year was the 4th annual Cycle the WAVE bike ride and the Cycle the WAVE Foundation was able to give a grand total of $100,000.00 to 3 separate Domestic Violence support programs: Eastside Domestic Violence Program (EDVP), Domestic Abuse Women's Network (DAWN) & New Beginnings. Pretty impressive Girlfriends I'd say!

This year Wuhoo Fitness and Cycle the WAVE have teamed up to offer a training program for women who want to ride the 25-mile Girly Girl route.  I can't even begin to tell you how excited I am about this partnership!  To find out what women are saying about the training program watch this short video ~

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Space is limited to only 25 athletes and spaces are going fast so don't wait to reserve YOUR spot, do it today.  Official registration opens on March 1st but you can reserve your space by emailing me directly at jennifer@wuhoofitness.com put Cycle the WAVE training in the subject line.  When was the last time YOU did something for the first time?  I look forward to training with you and helping you reach your health and fitness goals!

Talk about a win-win!  Be a part of the movement that raises money and awareness in the fight against domestic violence AND get healthier while making new friends.  Where else can you help someone in need at the same time as you help yourself?  Come on and catch the WAVE with me and Ride Like a Girl.

Here's to you in Fitness, Wellness, and Health!

Jennifer Malocha CEO of Fun at Wuhoo Fitness

jennifer@wuhoofitness.com

www.wuhoofitness.com

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Written by Jennifer Malocha On February 25, 2012, In Trainingexercisefitness

Tagged bikescycle the waveridingtraining